Before you get too caught up singing my favourite Whitney Houston song in your head, the title of this post is referring to finding The Fit in therapy. If you read my last blog post, you know that I think this is a Big. Freaking. Deal.
Let’s be honest – finding a therapist that will be the right one for you can feel like an overwhelming crapshoot. We know it isn’t always going to work, but how will you know when it is a good fit?
I can help you start the work of therapy before you even set foot in the door by empowering you with the tools to find the right fit. Sometimes clients get lucky, but many people don't feel right about leaving a relationship as important as this one to chance. To feel less like you’re rolling the dice and more in the driver’s seat, you can pre-screen therapists by:
Say WHAAAA??? Interview my therapist?!? Yep, you read that right. When a new client comes in with some great questions for me, a part of my therapist brain just lights right up. I think, "Okay, you did your homework and you're serious! Let's do this!!!" while I internally rub my hands together like I'm standing in front of the strawberry stand at the farmers' market.
(Very specific metaphor, I know, but I seriously love fruit and farmers' markets and it's been a long winter, okay?)
Suggested questions to ask your therapist in a first session:
A few things happen when clients take the time to ask even one or two questions of their therapist in the first meeting. First, you're stepping into a degree of participation in the therapy that, similar to the fit with your therapist, is a strong predictor for success. Second, you're asking for what you need which is hugely important in any healthy relationship. Third, you're putting yourself in a strong position to get information that will help you decide/feel out if this is the right person for you.
Do you have other questions that you think would be important to have answered in the first session? We'd love to hear from you! Use a button below to get the conversation going. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going back to that Whitney Houston video I was watching...
Blog Author -- Jodie Voth, RMFT
Jodie is a full-time therapist and owner of Voth Family Therapy. She enjoys working with teens and motivated adults who are working through transitions and relationship challenges.